I think this is normal, but it is not communicated to the young.
A week ago I was driving home from the grocery store with my wife. The new snow was a foot deep. As I turned into our neighborhood, there was a Dodge Charger stuck at the intersection. My wife asked if I was going to help.
We have a family story that is often told. My brother and his wife hosted a Christmas party 30 years ago. My sister in law was starting to clean up the table. My dad asked if she needed any help. She said that would be nice. My dad told my mom to help. Laughter all around on the stereotypical male thinking woman belong in the kitchen.
What is the difference between these two stories? My mom expected my dad to help when it fell into his area. My wife expects me to help when it falls into my area. Just like my dad could do dishes, my wife or my mother could shovel or push.
If constantly told that you are being somehow mistreated, you see it in any and every situation.
I think feminism harmed society, but it harmed women even more in so many ways. Maybe the biggest is tricking them into not having a fulfilling life.
A large percentage of woman, doing as they have been convinced, are postponing relationships and marriage. They think that their clock isn’t ticking. It is. Every year a woman postpones finding a husband, the smaller the pool of candidates. They are less attractive and they are less able to have a family. A man that is forty and is exceeding financially can find a younger woman and start a family.
I am fascinated when I watch Kevin Samuals. He has a YouTube channel. He takes callers. Mostly black woman in their late twenties. It is repetitive. How old are you? 30. Are you in a relationship? No. Do you want to get married some day? Yes. Do you want kids? Yes. How many? 2. Why aren’t you in a relationship? I am working on my career. When will you get into a relationship? Hmmm. What type of man are you looking for? Nice, good job, etc. Will you date a man that works at McDonalds? No. Eventually he gets that they want a man that makes 100 to 150k minimum. Usually they prefer black men. He will then make several points that hinder their plan. Their aren’t that many men making that kind of money. If they do they have choices. Why would they choose you? What do you bring to the party? I have a degree in xyz. Or better yet they say I have PHD for which he has a sound bite. He tells them the truth. The men you want don’t care about your degree or how much money you make. If I ask them if they would date a woman working at McDonalds, they say what does she look like.
He exposes the lies these young woman have been told. He does it without pulling any punches. The idea that a high income earning man that would prefer to do dishes, cook, work, clean, do laundry just to be married to a woman that has a career is beyond belief.
If a woman wants a career, a family and only do their fair share of the dishes, they better also accept men that work jobs that have less choice. It is highly probable that they will not be making big bucks.
There are two people in the relationship. Best to consider what the other person wants and what you really want.